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Written by: Lorien A, Masters
There’s a deep magic in the simple act of showing up for yourself. It’s more than just a practice of self-care—it’s an intentional choice that allows you to thrive in every area of your life. When we prioritize our own well-being, we not only reap the rewards, but those around us benefit too. You can’t pour from an empty cup, and when you’re filled—when you’ve nurtured your body, your heart, and your spirit—your relationships, your work, and your passions all flourish naturally and abundantly.
But for many of us, showing up for ourselves doesn’t come easily. We’re often conditioned to believe that everyone else should come first. We tend to put the needs of others ahead of our own, leaving ourselves on the back burner. So, why is it so hard to make that shift?
The reasons run deep:
People-Pleasing: We’ve learned that by putting others first, we’ll be loved, valued, or accepted. We fear that prioritizing ourselves will be seen as selfish.
Our Upbringing: Some of us were raised in environments where self-sacrifice was praised, and any kind of self-care was seen as indulgent or unnecessary.
Belief in Unworthiness: At the core, many of us simply don’t believe we’re worthy of the same care, attention, or love that we so readily give to others.
The truth is, when you show up for yourself, everyone wins. It might look like finally making time to move your body, nourishing yourself with foods that energize you, or stepping boldly into that relationship, career shift, or opportunity that’s been calling your name. And in doing so, you become the best version of yourself—not just for you, but for those around you.
I know this intimately. I spent years showing up for others, learning from incredible women how to give my all to those I love. But in the process, I forgot to show up for someone else—me. I became so focused on making sure everyone else was supported and cared for, that I lost sight of my own needs. The result? Burnout, frustration, and resentment because no one was doing the same for me. But the truth is, it wasn’t their job—it was mine. It took some hard lessons in my twenties and thirties to realize that the only person responsible for my well-being was me.
The shift from showing up for everyone else to showing up for yourself isn’t something that happens overnight—it’s a process. It begins with self-awareness, with getting real about how you’ve been showing up and for whom. It continues with setting boundaries, reconnecting with what lights you up, and practicing self-compassion. The goal isn’t to shift the full focus from everyone else to you, but to find balance. It’s about carving out time for yourself so that when you show up for others, it’s because you want to—and you have the energy to show up big for them, from a place of love. This takes time. The best and strongest foundations build the best relationships, and that’s what this is—building a relationship with yourself. One that you love and respect. One where you’re excited to follow through on commitments to yourself because, deep down, you know you are worthy of it. Not because of what you do for others or how much you give, but because you are amazing and enough as you are. You deserve to invest time in doing things that light you up.
If you’re curious about the steps I took on my own journey, I invite you to check out my last blog, Reclaiming You: How to Show Up for Yourself and Thrive, where I dive deeper into what supported my growth and how I turned the corner toward prioritizing me.
Now, imagine having weeks ahead of you where your time is intentionally divided between showing up for yourself and for others. You have scheduled moments dedicated to the things that fill you up—activities that nurture your soul, time spent with like-minded people who share your passions, all while still having the energy to be fully present with those you care about. Picture how amazing it feels to no longer run on empty, but instead to move through life with joy, excitement, and a sense of fulfillment. You’re still showing up for others, but now you’re also showing up for yourself in ways that support both.
As you think about showing up for yourself, what does that first step feel like for you? Maybe it’s a small act of self-care, setting a boundary, or carving out time for something that lights you up. Whatever it is, remember that every small step is a win.
This is possible.
If you’ve been feeling that nudge, that whisper telling you it’s time to make a change but you’re not sure where to start—I have something for you.
I created The Reclaim Project, a 10-week pay what you can women’s circle. It’s a safe, supportive space for women like you to rediscover your power, prioritize your well-being, and make self-care a non-negotiable. Whether you’re a caregiver, a professional, or someone who constantly puts others first, this 10-week circle is designed to help you reclaim your time, energy, and sense of self. Each week is thoughtfully designed to support you in easing these strategies into your life, and you’ll leave with a toolkit full of resources to help you navigate long after our time together ends.
2025 can be filled with intention and purpose, where you finally put yourself first. If you’re ready for that, I invite you to join us. Sign-ups are open now, and we begin mid-October. Let this be the year you reclaim your time, your energy, and your life—exactly the way you’ve always desired.
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